We can be too rigid in our thought process towards love. It can be difficult to navigate the complexities of who people are yet, simplify it at the same time. I think the greatest thing people overlook is that life is life and since life is life we can never be fully prepared to encounter everything that comes our way. What we can do is embrace our strength to endure whatever we encounter.
I shared about my engagement ending and how difficult it was to express to people my relief that it was over. I think that the implications of a dead end relationship started to manifest in a way that to try and fight for it was a mute point. He didn’t want the relationship and I was honestly happy about it.
When I look back and see where we went wrong, there wasn’t really a whole lot to assess other than the fact that I believe he was ready and once he got in it, realized that he wasn’t. Some people will say that his actions were cruel. Why go through the hassle if you’re not sure? But looking objectively without villainizing him, he was sure until he started to encounter life which made him realize that he wasn’t where he needed to be to move forward. Sometimes you don’t know what you don’t know until you know it. The great thing is that, it’s OK. Could his actions have been more admirable? Certainly. But we cannot always predict the actions of people. We can only be held responsible for our response and how we choose to move forward.
If we were supposed to know everything, life would be boring. We would entertain monotony in a way that makes humans cringe because we are constantly evolving in some capacity. Furthermore, the not knowing is also what makes life and love equally as sweet. With each person you encounter there is a possibility of something wonderful be it love or friendship. That hope makes the world go round and the possibilities are endless because when you finally know, you’ll know. And you’ll often times know it is right because of all that has gone wrong!